JUST SAY NO
I have been observing and encountering for quite a while that it's actually difficult to say No. This two letter word literally gets on people's nerves but it's too hard to spill out. Don't you think? Yes, for some people it maybe a cakewalk but for others it's a sticky wicket. Though it's such a simple word, but for some reason it doesn't come easy. What comes easy, won't last long so why not take this shot. Ekdum chota packet bada dhamaka. Aur yeh dhamaka bolne ke baad nhi bolne se pehele hi ho jata hai. I am talking about the blast of thoughts which takes place in your mind to decide whether to say it or let go. It is really powerful only if one has the courage to apply it and you must know that it's your right to use it whenever you firmly oppose something. It's not an easy peasy task okay, I understand , one needs to learn the art of saying No just as you all learnt the subtle art of not giving a fuck. The biggest reason that we restrict ourselves from using this word is rejection , we fear we would disrespect someone, hurt their feelings, or appear unkind. Really? So what happens is we think let's say a yes iss baar par fir eventually we say yes har baar. It becomes a habit. 'Kyunki hum toh aise hai bhaiya, yeh apni adat hai bhaiya, toh kyu ho tum aise re bhaiya, badlo apni aadat oh bhaiya'. So cutting the comedy, let's get this thing straight, we are not here to please others not at the expense of our emotional well-being.
I know it takes a lot to deny and you can't learn it in a day but it becomes effortless when you first learn to keep yourself before others. Once you start using it over time you will realize how saying No turns out to be the best yes. This world is full of cunning and witty people who exactly know how to daunt and get things done and they might use this against you, it's you only who needs to shield yourself from getting intimidated. If their strength intimidates you it's time to realize that's a weakness of yours buddy. Nobody has the muscle to force you without your consent but you make their task so damn easy by just nodding. I think you should consult your middle finger to intrude and save you sometimes. Be the villain for few minutes to be your own hero for the rest of the days.
You have to show your back to a lot of good things in order to be able to experience a lot of great things. Because sometimes it's only by refusing you can concentrate on things which are actually important to you. I am sure you'll agree on this, if no well you have to. Maybe you have time and you can take up a certain task but if your heart says to relax ,its no harm. A wise man said to be of service to the world you will have to take care of your ownself. When the deadline is unreasonable and you feel miserable, when meetings clash and you want a refreshing splash, when you need a vacation but stress out for promotion, when you are feeling under the weather and not interested in a get together, when you need some sleep and alone time is all you peep, when you're being taken advantage of its totally okay to say a big NO. And it is my humble request don't lie, don't make excuses, don't over explain yourself don't say maybe if you want to say No. Promise?And yes do yourself a favor by saying no without feeling like you need to explain why. Because No is not just a word it's a complete sentence in itself. You don't owe any explanation to anyone . There's no need to apologize for refusing as there is surely a big difference between you can do it and you want to do it.
This brings me to the next point i.e normalize taking No as an answer. Don't bring your 7 letter conceit in between to handle a two letter No. Mere kaano ko nah sunne ki adat nhi hai, agar apko nah sunne ki adat nhi hai toh hume bhi han kehena ka shauk nhi hai. Now deal with it. I am sure you can do better guys Also at the same time, stop declaring other's ambiguity as a yes. I mean what good are you even doing by showing your dominance to such a level that at the first place the person is afraid to confront and furthermore you considering it to be a yes. Not fair. Others may not be at a situation or a position as you but asking for their consent is the least noble thing you must do. Note it in bold letters that no means no, maybe means no I don't know means no and silence also means no. Only a yes means yes . If I would ask you to pick what would you really choose if you pick yes after all this I''ll make you face the noose. Think before you use these words wisely, so what you can do is answer the below flowchart with a calm mind and you'll come up with the best answer, if not the answer then a way to it.
Make sure that your choice should not depend on what others would think of you as you are the one who's going to face the results, not them. Always stay true to yourself it will surely be worth it. Don't stress , do your best and forget the rest. And as I always say self love is damn important kyunki TUM SAB BHAUKAL HO MERI JAAN😘✌
A WARM HEARTED THANKS TO ALL THE READERS WHO SPARED SOME OF THEIR PRECIOUS TIME TO READ MY BLOG. DO COMMENT AND REVIEW IN FAVOUR OR OPPOSITION. EVERY OPINION MATTERS AND EVERY OPINION IS DIFFERENT
Amazing piece, kudos
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