Finding Clarity in Chaos

   🤗HUG OR HANDSHAKE🤝

What if you get one chance to go back and relive your childhood days? I mean I am totally down for it and I know most of you are too. The fact that everyone cherishes those days even though we have faded memories of them, says a lot about what sealed them as a magical time in our lives. Honestly, my early years are best remembered through the large number of photo albums and videos my family has of me, as they say, the first child benefits. Was it innocence, kindness, or empathy you had when you were young that became a magical potion? The desire for love rather than materialistic things added magic to our lives and made those days carefree and happy. We were truly delighted by small gestures and things. I remember being so excited and content as I rushed to my mother when I received a star from my teacher. My friend would save a toffee for me and I would feel so special. Switching the buttons on and off to see the blinking light, roaming about the house and teaching what was taught in school, patiently pressing each bubble on the bubble wrap, actually something I still do, but not so patiently now. All these things might seem insignificant now, but deep down they gave us immense satisfaction and happiness. I wish there was a way to know you were in the good old days before you left them.

Expressing and receiving love and affection was like a piece of cake. Whenever we visited our relatives, they would give us a peck and pinch our cheeks. I know we don't remain cute, and it's odd to see an aunty pulling the cheek of a mature 19-year-old, it rather feels annoying. The affection and love the relatives and elders showed I guess turned into questions about career and life. Everyone changes when they grow up. Instead of being happy, we start bothering ourselves with little things just like the confusion we create in our heads before greeting. A hug or a handshake. I am so happy today I want a hug, no wait what if the person thinks I am overreacting and entering their space, what if I make them feel uncomfortable, let's handshake, will it be too formal?, will they think I don't consider them a close friend? Oh god, let's just pass a smile and get over it. Just for a simple yet affectionate move which could not have resulted in something more than a sweet gesture and might do wonders to your mood and day, we opened all the unnecessary doors of our brain. Who are you waiting for? If you have loved ones today just go and hug them dude because memories cannot be hugged. 

Growing up definitely brings a certain level of maturity but that doesn't mean you will feel awkward or restrict yourself. Especially the misunderstanding arises between opposite genders I feel. Like I was having a convo about the same the other day with my guy friend and he too agreed that he can comfortably hug a boy and there is a slight agitation when it comes to girls because he doesn't want them to feel uncomfortable. Remember there is a difference between a friendly hug and a passionate embrace, not all hugs need to be romantic okay? And I agree some people might not feel comfortable while hugging and some don't like getting hugged. Hugging is only great if it's consensual, so that's fine. What you can do is try giving a side hug and judge for yourself if the other person reciprocated to the same extent or not, I mean it's better than assuming the other person won't like it. Also at the same time, you can always politely say if you are not liking being hugged. We need to be a little vocal about things, yeh koi bollywood movie nhi chal rhi where isharo isharo mei people understand, humko aise nhi jamta yaar.

Hugs are just so underrated. They are always so refreshing, full of energy and positivity. There is some magic about hugs that makes me feel so pure. A hug does not require any explanation or conversation you can convey all your affection and adore the person while you hug them. Deep down everyone likes being hugged or would prefer hugs over a handshake but they just play the pretend game by just shaking a hand. I agree sometimes it's just instinctive that you feel like doing a handshake, that's completely alright what I am trying to say is go by your gut. And don't u dare try to deny it. Because it's a fact otherwise people won't roam about on streets holding free hug sign boards. okay, let me share something with you I have this habit of judging the handshakes, like whenever a person shakes hands unlike normal people I rate it like how much he or she is affectionate towards me or is interested in the gesture at the moment. But whenever I hug someone it is automatically more affectionate and I am never really able to judge it. Going by today's scenario where people are stressed, in depression, have anxiety, and are lost, the world does need more hugs, now more than ever.

Now all those who have reached this part of the podcast, kudos for bearing with me, I am not forcing that you to choose hugs over handshakes. My main intention is to make you aware that the point is not to favor one over the other but to highlight that always listen to your heart and have good intent. And really, there's not much you can do wrong with it.

A HANDSHAKE CAN BE FIRM,

A HUG CAN BE TIGHT

A HANDSHAKE IS A NORM,

A HUG IS A DELIGHT.

SO WHETHER IT'S A HUG OR A HANDSHAKE,

IT'S THE GESTURE THAT MATTERS MOST.

IT'S THE KINDNESS THAT WE UNDERTAKE,

THAT BRINGS US CLOSER, COAST TO COAST

I would like to have a favor, whosoever you see in front of you just go and hug them right now. I can't individually come to hug you all so a tight jhappi from my side kyunki tum sab na bhaukal ho meri jaan.

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